Call me Maddie's guide of how to survive st valentine's day if/when you are single. What to do on Valentine's day if I don't have a boyfriend / girlfriend/
As you might already know St. Valentine’s day is slowly coming towards us. Therefore, I decided to make this post to all my single readers who don’t have a significant other for this day!

Even though I am in a relationship right now, this Valentine’s day will only be the second year I have a date for Valentine’s day (with my boyfriend of 2 years). I know how much it sucks to be alone on this day, for me it was especially hard when I was a teen, because I just felt the pressure of having a boyfriend ( For the reasons of proving myself to others. For example, all these comparisons between girls- the talks of first boyfriends, first kisses etc. They made me insecure in a way, because as I was listening to their stories, experiences. I felt left behind, like there was something wrong with me- that I still hadn’t kissed a boy or had a relationship for that matter.I think I was 14 or something). Little did I know that I still had a lot of ahead of me, but back then it just seemed like a disaster, especially on Valentine’s day!

Be your own Valentine

This day is all about love, right? Then how about not concentrating your love towards other people, but instead, how about you give all that love to yourself and be your own Valentine? I mean if Sue Sylvester ( a character from Glee) could marry herself, because there is not a better partner to her than herself, why couldn’t we all just love ourselves and treat ourselves for at least one day a year? Hehe, this made me laugh: “I will be my own Valentine, because I am always there, whenever I need me!”
And if I am talking about loving ourselves, here are some ways I would treat myself if I wouldn’t have a date on Valentine’s:
1. & 2. & 3.- Shopping spree
Sometimes I wonder if I could be a shopaholic, because there is practically nothing that brings me more instant pleasure and sometimes even an adrenaline rush than a good shopping spree, especially if I have found some great deals or bargains along the way.
1. Jewelry is a great gift idea for guys to give it as a special treat to their ladies on this special day ( I think you can never go wrong with jewelry, am I wrong?). So maybe, if you don’t a boyfriend who could give you these nice shiny things- gift them to yourself! Just look at these adorable stackable rings from fresh trends, I can only imagine how cute they would look all together! 
2. When I see a red dress, my mind immediately goes to two things. The first is the lyrics from Lana Del Rey’s “Summertime Sadness” that says, “I got my red dress on tonight / Dancing in the dark in the pale moonlight”. The second, obviously, is Valentine’s Day! Whether you love or hate the holiday, it’s a great excuse to wear red, buy a cute new dress and have a dinner date with someone- whether that be a husband, boyfriend, or your girlfriends. And how could anybody resist you in this dress?
3. Shoes. There can never be too many pairs of shoes, right? 🙂 I fell in love with this pair from Charlotterusse

4.- Pamper yourself
Of course not all of us are rich enough to afford a whole day of pampering in a spa or resort, but if you have a bathtub, a good book & maybe few dollars to buy a bottle of red wine and some chocolates, then I guess a plan for the evening is settled, right? 🙂
5. – No sappy romantic comedies!
I think that watching TV series could also be a good idea, but definitely avoid any kind of romance movies, trust me- been there, done that, will never do that again! I would suggest you watch something funny, something that makes you laugh, for example, here are the shows that I like & that make me laugh: The Simpsons, Friends, Modern Family, How I met your mother etc. + as a complement to the TV series marathon- a  bottle of wine & some chocolates. Haha, can you guess which alcoholic beverage I like the most? 😀
+ One additional- Go to an animal shelter and play/walk with the cutie-pies that live there
As I said, this day is about love & maybe if you don’t want to sit at home and pamper yourself, do something nice for those who crave the love the most. I bet there would be many dogs at your local animal shelter who would love to be stroked and played with, even for a little while. 🙂
How are you going to spend this Valentine’s day? 🙂


  1. February 9, 2014 / 14:28

    ahaha nice tips! but unfortunately i'll be celebrating together with my love (:

  2. February 9, 2014 / 15:20

    Awesome idea to celebrate love for ourselves! We all need love, most importantly our own. 🙂 LOVE that dress too – lusting!

  3. February 9, 2014 / 16:05

    Great tips!
    I love that dress in your collage. c:


  4. February 9, 2014 / 16:28

    Hi Maddie, you are right, is something I suffered most when I was a teenie, then growing up I started to pay very less attention to this festivity, even now Im in a relationship, though I enjoy all the themed 😛 I think there isnt better Valentines than ourselves, the quote you shared is so true lol!:) Your guide is perfect, Id treat myself in the same way too. Friends is my ever fav show, I grew up watching it and still not it makes me so laugh!:) Happy Sunday dear, kisses! xo

  5. February 9, 2014 / 19:18

    Great post ! Your suggestions are very good, love them 🙂

  6. February 9, 2014 / 20:41

    Ohhh… es valentiindienu tieshi taa uztveru, nu kaa miolestiibas dienu, nevis miilas dienu starp diviem….buchot visubdienu beernu, konchas mammai… speeles ar draugiem champanieti ar viiru…. tavas piedaavaataasvidejas patiik, iipashi friends box set, viins un vanna ….. lai jums smuka diena

  7. February 9, 2014 / 22:55

    Omg this post is so cute xD I love all your ideas!
    I'm in a relashionship right now but it was so nice to read your post as always! <3 xox

  8. February 9, 2014 / 23:32

    Valtenindiena ari prieks manis ir milsetibas diena, kad draudzenes parsteigt ar kaut ko jauku un mammu, gimenes loceklus. Pasi gan baigi uz davanam neiespringstam, manuprat, nav jau diena par davanam, bet par to ka viens otru novertejam ar ziediem un saldumiem ir ok. Friends seriju kaste nekad nenak par skadi, briniskiga.

    xoxo Ra

  9. February 10, 2014 / 05:19

    Haha good guide, Friends is the best at a lonely time!

  10. February 10, 2014 / 07:23

    nice guide 🙂 This year is going to be my 3rd valentine wih my boyfirend. We don't really know what we are going to do yet but maybe out for dinner? (so clichee haha). I hope you have a great valentine!

  11. February 10, 2014 / 07:32

    I would totally not mind spending my night with a box of chocolates and a Friends DVD boxed set lol


  12. February 10, 2014 / 08:42

    This is the most fantastical post ever 🙂 I actually have the best valentine ever though, he's named non-existent and he's the best boyfriend I could ever want :3 it's our lifelong anniversary this year 🙂
    <3 victorique

  13. February 10, 2014 / 09:00

    Hi, dear Maddie! Thanks for those sweet and interesting advice) I hope for everyone of us this festive day will turn out so great! I consider it to be day of love to every our dearest and nearest person, not only to bf or hubby) By the way Friends is my favourite comedy since school, still the can make me laught out loud)
    Have a fabulous time!

  14. February 10, 2014 / 10:51

    Correct tips! I'm married but I really don't care about that day! and I prefer to watch some serial tv instead of going out and paying more than usual just because we have to celebrate our love!!

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  15. February 10, 2014 / 14:03

    hahah great advices! I'll definately will follow them! 😀
    very nice blog by the way 🙂

    kisses from Russia,

  16. February 10, 2014 / 14:25

    I love your light-hearted posts!! Aah, Valentine's day will be spent solo for me, this year, so thank you for those tips haha!

    Lace and Lipstick Stains

  17. February 10, 2014 / 15:26

    nice post!

  18. February 10, 2014 / 17:46

    I love your single girl ideas Maddie, I am going to share them with all my girl pals. That dress is so beautiful and HIMYM episodes is the perfect dose of fun!

  19. February 10, 2014 / 20:21

    Valentine´s Day is so overrated (even if you have a boyfriend) but I like the idea of using it as an occasion to love yourself and have a nice day anyway 😀

  20. February 10, 2014 / 21:50

    I'm not single, but I like your ideas!

  21. February 11, 2014 / 03:11

    Such a great list – you've really nailed how to have a satisfying Valentine's Day! I adore this red dress and Friends is quite possibly the best show ever!

  22. February 11, 2014 / 03:40

    Maddie, This is a great post and a smart one, too, as many lovely ladies are single. I agree it is a great occasion to pamper yourself and I love your suggestions. Love the red dress!

  23. February 11, 2014 / 11:53

    This is so cute!! I agree with all!
    Back in my single days, I would throw anti-cupid parties for anyone who dint have a date!
    Kat |

  24. February 11, 2014 / 15:12

    I honestly don't make a huge deal out of it – I like the idea, but I just think that love has to be celebrated every day, with little special moments here and there, not just once a year. Same applies to me-time. 🙂

  25. Anonymous
    February 11, 2014 / 16:49

    Friends dvd set is perfect even if you dont have someone to spend a valentines day with :))

  26. February 11, 2014 / 20:48

    Oh dear Maddie you are such a lovely girl! I know already that you are really warmhearted but that you think on woman who had not a date on Valentine´s is again convincing me about your wonderful character! To be honest I have never celebrated this day in my life because it is not usual to celebrate it in my generation in Bavaria 🙂 Wish you a happy Valentine´s with your beautiful boyfriend!

    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

  27. February 12, 2014 / 05:42

    Aww, love this post! I'll be celebrating valentines with my boyfriend, but before him I never celebrated because I was single. I love the idea you brought up of treating yourself on this day. I'm probably a shopaholic as well because I get so much happiness from shopping! I love the idea of pampering yourself. And Friends is one of my favorite comedies! This sounds like a perfect singles valentines day : )


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